All single Christians should know that dating does not only involve a single person. It is a union of two people who are willing to understand each other and if they connect, they might spend the rest of their lives together. A lot of young people get into relationships without first making an attempt to understand their potential partner. This often ends in heart break and break ups.
One should know that dating is a phase that comes before the relationship and it should only proceed to the next level if two people feel that they understand and respect each other, not just in terms of personality but also in terms of goals, values and perspectives. For single individuals, dating can be challenging if they do not take things strategically from the very beginning. For all the single Christians out there, we have some dating strategies that you should follow:
Start with yourself
Solomon wrote in the book of Proverbs, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (4:23). Assingle Christians, you should start the dating process by asking yourself what your intentions are because your intentions will formulate your behaviour. Set your standards and decide for yourself how far is too far, even in terms of a physical relationship. Know that good judgment in the matters regarding love and intimacy spring from a soul that is nurtured by your spiritual beliefs.
Do not wait for the right time to disclose your set of standards and values to the person you are dating. This is the right time because you are trying to understand each other. Even when both the people who are dating are Christian, their set of values and standards can largely differ. If you do not share them with each other now and start your relationship based on expectations, chances are that it will not turn out to be fruitful. Some people are willing to accept and respect other people’s set of values, others are not.
Solomon also said, “He who walks with the wise grows wise” (Proverbs 13:20).Single Christians should always look into seeking advice from people whose perspectives and opinions they hold in high regard. This can be a teacher, a pastor or even a really good fellow Christian. Remember that dating should be a way for you to grow stronger and firmer into your spiritual beliefs as they are a huge part of your life.